Why Things Are Never as Bad or as Difficult as You Think They Are.

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Last week I spend most of the week in hospital having a hernia repair operation. If I am being honest, I should have had this surgery years ago, but I have always had a fear of anything medical, and the thought of just going to see a doctor about my hernia sent a shiver down my spine. So I ignored it. When my hernia ‘popped out’, I quietly pushed in back in and got on with my life always telling myself “next time” I will go see a doctor.

Well, a few weeks ago that “next time” came about. For the first time since developing a hernia, I could not push it back in after it had popped out and found myself in the Emergency Room of our local hospital. This ‘visit’ ultimately led to my stay in hospital last week for the surgery I needed.

Between the visit to the ER and my surgery, my brain played all sorts of tricks on me. Fears of waking up in the middle of the operation, dying on the operating table, the thought that as the hernia had been pushed back in I didn’t need to go through with the surgery, now was not a good time to have surgery etc etc. My brain tried everything to dissuade me from going through with the surgery.

Fortunately, I knew it would and I prepared myself with alternative thoughts. I focused on what it would be like to be able to do whatever exercise I wanted to do without any fear of my hernia ‘popping out’. Of being able to travel without the fear of having to go to an emergency room in a foreign land and of being able to jump up and down at music festivals again.

Following the surgery and after coming round from the anaesthetic, I looked around the recovery room and the first thought I had was “what was all the fuss about?”

And for the rest of the day, I began thinking about this. Why is it our brains are so good at coming up with great ideas and then being so good at sabotaging those ideas when we want to execute on them?

This experience and the experience I had going to the ER in the first place has taught me that most of our fears about the future are unfounded. We tend to think of the worst when the worst is unlikely to happen and instead we should focus on the best-case scenarios.

When our brain goes off into “worst-case scenario” thinking, we need to pull ourselves back and focus on the “best-case scenario” — in my case being able to exercise and travel without fear. This means when we make our plans, create out goals or accept we have to go see a doctor about a long-standing medical issue, we define the outcome in clear, positive and easy to imagine ways. We should acknowledge our fears, be aware of them and be prepared to quickly shift our thinking away from the negatives and back to the positives.

Years ago when I finally stopped smoking, the same issues came up. It was very easy at the end of the day to go to my smoking balcony, smoke a cigarette saying to myself “this is the last cigarette I will smoke”, going to bed determined not to smoke again, only to wake up in the morning and after drinking a few sips of coffee, having the strongest urge imaginable to have a cigarette and giving in. I did that for years.

In the end, it took a huge effort and a lot of mental switching to prevent my brain from sabotaging my efforts. It always came down to saying to myself “I can do this!” Once it was done, I looked back and thought to myself “why did it take so long for me to do this?”

I see the same thing happening with people who become stressed out and overwhelmed at the amount of work they perceive they have to do. We see a mountain of work and our brain goes into overdrive telling us we could never get that mountain of work completed on time. Of course, the truth is we can get that work done and all we have to do is focus on one thing at a time and do whatever it takes to avoid distractions and interruptions. Two or three days of focused work and that mountain will have disappeared and we are back in control.

The trick is to look at the mountain, decide it can be conquered and develop a strategy to conquer it. Block a day or two on your calendar and tell your boss, customers and co-workers you need a day or two to catch up. In most cases, the people you tell will understand and support you. Obviously your brain is going to tell you if you block your calendar your boss will be angry — maybe even fire you — your customers will never understand and will take their business to your biggest rival (because your rival has no work to do and can be available 24/7) None of which is true, but we allow our brains to sabotage us like that.

Don’t allow it to happen. Focus on the positives. Focus on the outcome you desire. Acknowledge the things that could go wrong but don’t dwell on them. When your brain tries to sabotage you, push the positives back to the front of your mind. Remind yourself why you are changing what you are changing, doing what you are doing and what the outcome will be if you carry this through. Tell yourself: I can do this!



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Get These Fundamentals Right and You Can Achieve Anything.

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From Greek philosophers and Roman emperors to Renaissance scientists, authors and painters, the fundamentals for achieving a fulfilled, happy life has been documented, spoken about and lived for thousands of years. Yet today, most people struggle through life in states of misery, stress and unhappiness. Why is that and what are these fundamentals that, if practised, lead to a happy fulfilled life?

Below are just a few of these fundamental principles you can follow to give you a fulfilled, stress-free and happy life.

Discipline

Everything flows back to this one trait. Without discipline you will always choose the cake over the healthy option, you will always drink that one too many glasses of wine and you will always choose the sofa over a thirty-minute jog or walk. It is your self-discipline that will catapult you towards achieving many of the goals, ambitions and objectives you set for yourself. From losing weight to creating a successful blog you need the discipline to take action every day to make these outcomes happen.

No excuses

We humans seem to be much better at coming up with excuses about why we cannot do something than we are at coming up with reasons why we can do something. We seem to have reversed things somewhere along the way.

There’s an old saying: “energy flows where your focus goes” which means if you spend all your time thinking of reasons why you cannot do something, all your energy will be focused on finding excuses for not doing it. The most common ones being, “I’m not ready yet” or “I just have to do this first” or “I don’t have time”. Whenever you find yourself saying these excuses, you need to mentally check yourself. Recognise immediately what these are — excuses — and take steps to remove them from your thinking. The best way to do that is to have this conversion with yourself:

I don’t have time to write a blog post this week

Why is that? What is taking up all my time?

I have to do this first.

Why? Why is doing that first so important?

I’m not ready yet

Why? What do I need to do to be ready now?

Asking these “why” questions forces you to recognise you are making excuses and opens your thinking to finding reasons to overcome these self-imposed barriers. It’s a process called ‘interrupting patterns of thinking’ and is very effective at preventing you from making excuses.

Whatever it is you want to accomplish, stop making excuses and instead make a list of all the reasons why you can, should and must do something. Just this one act of writing out all the reasons why you can do something will start to make whatever it is you want to achieve much more likely to happen.

Have a plan

The majority of the people you will meet today woke up without a plan for the day. The only thing on their agenda was probably that they had to go to work. That was it. The only thing they will do all day is follow the instructions of their boss or customers. When they get home, because there is now nobody telling them what to do, they will sit down in front of the TV or binge-watch YouTube videos until bedtime and then repeat the same process the next day.

If you are not planning your days with one or two clear objectives you are going to find yourself in a repetitive cycle of missed opportunities, stress and unhappiness because instead of you setting the direction of your life, you are giving up that responsibility to someone else and their plan for you is never likely to be in your interests it will be in their interests.

Instead, give yourself ten to twenty minutes at the end of the day to look at your calendar, see where you are going to be and plan a few personal projects around them. Schedule thirty to forty minutes of exercise, one hour of reading in a coffee shop or arrange a meeting with a lost friend.

Just the fact you are making a plan to do something constructive for you every day will give you something to look forward to and will give you a sense of accomplishment. It’s that sense of accomplishment that will drive your motivation and pull you towards repeating the process the next day.

Write down your goals

Unless your goals are written down and you review them regularly you will never likely achieve them. Goals give you a direction in life, they help to keep you moving in the direction you want your life to go. Without goals, you will drift. Drift from one career to another, one relationship to another and one job to another.

What is it you want out of life? What do you want to achieve in your career? What kind of relationships do you want? What lifestyle do you want?

Answering these questions will give you a set of goals you can turn into daily actions that will help to take you towards achieving them. The joy and purpose you get by pursuing your goals are worth it even if you never actually achieve your goals.

The ability to focus

This seems to be a lost art. There are so many distractions competing for our attention from social media, advertising and entertainment to people and things that it has become very easy to have our attention hijacked by the latest, loudest thing. If you want to achieve success at anything you must resist these distractions.

People like Elon Musk, Steve Jobs, Nelson Mandela and Oprah Winfrey never allowed themselves to be distracted by trivialities. They had or have a purpose and they stay focused on that purpose. They knew where their priorities were and that was where their focus went. Remember, “where your focus goes your energy flows”. Focus on the latest and loudest and you will be pursuing trivialities, focus on improving yourself, mentally and physically, and you will become an improved version of yourself.

These five traits and habits will serve you well in life. They will guide you to make the right choices and will be the driving force of taking you from where you are today to where you want to be in the future. These are simple steps but can be difficult to make. It’s up to you to take that first step. Over time you will find they are so ingrained into who you are it will become natural for you to live a disciplined, focused life.



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How to become more financially responsible.

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This is a guest post by the wonderful Lucy Rose. Once again, thank you so much for doing this, Lucy.

We all reach a stage in life where we realise that it is time to start making an investment in the future. Whether that means getting a deposit together for a house or putting money away each month to save for something big or even for a rainy day, there comes a time when this will start to take more of a priority. The key to being financially responsible, put simply, is ‘living within your means’. This article will give some top tips to help you become more financially responsible, starting today.

The risks of getting into debt

Having the ability to organise your finances and plan and budget ahead requires some level of foresight and maturity. Living from day to day without thinking ahead for extended periods, significantly increases the chances that you will end up in debt with friends, family, or at worst with service providers or credit card companies.

This can be a slippery slope, as yet get further into debt and start missing bill payments it could severely affect your credit rating, which will harm your prospects and limit your opportunities for getting onto the property ladder. It’s a vicious cycle that you don’t want to get into.

Budget your income

This is the first and most important step towards becoming financially responsible, and it is something that you will need to do every month to make sure that you are covering all monthly expenses and outgoings at the same time as leaving enough money left over to buy any essentials you may need to tide you over until the next pay check. This is the basic framework that any financial success is built on.

Make a debt plan

One you start making debt payments and you can see the amount you owe decreasing every month you will start to feel a lot better and more motivated to see it through and keep the momentum going. Getting any debts paid off will be a massive weight off your shoulders, giving you much more freedom with your finances.

The first step is to get in touch with the service providers in question and organise a manageable debt payment plan with each of them directly, or if you prefer and find it easier to manage, there are ways that you can consolidate all of your debt into one and make a regular monthly payment that encompasses all of them.

Control your spending habits

This involves bringing some awareness around your expenditure; what kind of things are you spending the most money on? Are you spending too much money on buying non-essential items, i.e. things you want but don’t need? In the meantime, while you build up your finances, you will need to weed out any bad spending habits such as impulsive buys or getting sucked into sales.

If you are spending too much money on addictive substances, like alcohol or tobacco and you know that this is a massive drain on your finances, maybe it is time to start addressing any addictions you might have and getting into healthier and more sustainable habits.

A brighter future

You will find that once you have better control of your finances, you will reduce a significant source of stress and worry in your life which will leave you feeling much happier, more secure and in control. Being able to save up to buy things you need that will make your life easier or save for a holiday or weekend away to visit family or friends will mean that you can start enjoying your life more and planning for the future.


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What’s the best predictor of success?

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This is a guest post by Emily Heaslip and originally appeared on Vervoe.com

I’ve always struggled with the term ‘soft skills.’ Having technical skills (hard or ‘critical’ skills as they’re called) backed up by higher education, along with positional authority, are to a great degree predictive of success. However, it’s been my experience that inter-relational skills (soft) are just as if not more predictive of success. Anything I’ve ever accomplished in my career to this point (both personally and professionally) has been because of an ability to get things done through and with people.

The data backs me up on this perspective and has for some time. These inter-relational skills are critical and are in demand in nearly every company and every industry. A Wall Street Journal survey of 900 executives found that 92% said these kind of skills were equally important or more important than technical skills. But 89% of those surveyed said they have a very or somewhat difficult time finding people with these kind of attributes. Likewise, LinkedIn’s 2018 Workforce Report discovered that the four most in-demand inter-relational skills are leadership, communication, collaboration, and time management.

Are inter-relational skills a better predictor of success? According to Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence at Work, yes! His research of 500 executives found that emotional intelligence was a better predictor of top performance than previous experience or IQ. Additionally, CEOs at some of the world’s top companies (Amazon, Xerox, and Tesla, to name a few) lead with emotional intelligence and have designed their entire corporate structure around these kind of skills.

The majority leadership style today in this country is still directed authority and those who have this skill often assume that inter-relational skills are only good for creating a fulfilling and pleasant work environment. However, the link between profit and leaders with high emotional intelligence is clear. In one study, CEOs whose employees rated them high in character had an average return of 9.35% over a two-year period, nearly five times as much as companies with CEOs who had low character ratings. The case for recruiting for these kind of skills is strong, and there’s something to be said for balancing good leadership and communication with individuals who have honed their talent.

This is not to say that hard skills should be ignored. Without specifically required knowledge, achieving desired objectives is very difficult. Cal Newport, author of So Good They Can’t Ignore You, believes that to have a successful career, you must develop skills that make you an expert in something. There will always be a market for those with a depth of knowledge in one thing and certain fields will always demand new hires with niche skills and technical training. Newport argues that the more mastery you have in a skill or field, the more control and satisfaction you’ll have over your career.

While it’s true that technical masters do become top CEOs (Steve Jobs and Bill Gates for example), other experts note that eventually, inter-relational skills and emotional intelligence must be learned. Many programmers, for example, have some of the basic hard skills that it takes to run a company but fall short on key EQ traits like listening.

Truth be told, the best leaders that started out as experts in their field, can and do learn and acquire really good inter-relational skills over time.

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Moving Toward Success In Life by Focusing on Responsibility

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This is a guest post by the fabulous Lucy Rose.

As Ernest Hemingway once said, “There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.” Self-improvement is the development of self-awareness, allowing you to change your habits, build the best version of yourself, and as a result, enhance your quality of life. However, it is not a quick fix, and takes continuous and honest effort. Through the help of coaches, books, and communities, you can get what you need to foster self-improvement. The first step starts with you. Invest in a coachread books, gather a supportive community or combine these steps to help improve yourself. But first, determine what needs to be improved.

Looking into the Mirror

One of the best steps towards self-improvement is to self-reflection. What are your strengths and weaknesses? What are some unresolved issues that have played a pivotal role in how you go about your daily life? The key to engaging in self-reflection is to be completely honest with yourself. It can be easy to let ego get in the way of seeing what areas of yourself can be improved. It’s important to develop self-awareness and set goals for potential growth. Self-reflection sometimes involves others as well. Asking friends and family for feedback can give insight to how others perceive you. It is always easier to focus on the good aspects of one’s self rather than the negative. However, a key factor in self-improvement involves a careful focus on responsibility.

Learning to be Accountable

Taking responsibility means having accountability not only for your actions, but for your life. Going forth in improving yourself, you have to mature. Stop blaming other people or situations for misfortunes and negative outlooks on life. Life is unfair and although you could have been the victim and those feelings and thoughts may be justified, where does blaming get you? It only leads to resentment and powerlessness blocking you from living a more fulfilling life. In the end, your life is about you, not them. Reclaiming this power will only make your life better.

Accepting responsibility also accepts emotions as a part of daily life. Acknowledge your emotions, the positive and negative. No one can be happy all the time. Thus we have to make sure we realise what actions we are taking when we feel emotions. Taking responsibility of your emotions and being honest with yourself allows you the opportunity to improve yourself.

Responsibility over one’s action and mind means a variety of things. Having a consistent sleep schedule, eating healthy, exercising regularly, avoiding toxic influences, reflecting on one’s self. One of the most important realisations of taking responsibility for your life is having integrity and credibility for yourself and for others. You can’t take responsibility if you do not follow through with actions you determine will improve your life. It’s important to stick to your word. This will help you stay focused on your goals and ambitions. By taking responsibility for you own initiative, responsibility for your own success.


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Why Hustle Porn Is Not As Dangerous As The Naysayers Tell You.

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There is a whole category of blog and social media posts blasting the rise of what has become known as “hustle porn”. Hustle Porn is those motivational posts and videos that show people working out, waking up very early and doing work and not ending their day until they are exhausted.

The reality in life is if you want to achieve greatness — and there’s nothing wrong in that — you are going to have to do the work. You are going to have to be better than everyone else and you are going to have to work long hours. There are no shortcuts and no magic formula that allows you to stay in bed until lunchtime on weekends. You have to be focused and you have to do the work.

Now, not everyone wants to do that and that is perfectly fine. We live in a wonderful world that allows us to live our lives the way we want to. To criticise a genre of books, videos and blog posts because they tell us what it takes to become successful is really missing the point. These videos, books and blog posts tell it as it is. To imply that you don’t have to work hard to build a successful business or to become a better person is just plain wrong.

I’ve met dozens of people who pay $100 a week to go to the latest new fitness classes that promise you will get fit and lose weight and all you have to do for an hour a week is stretch out your legs and arms with a group of other like-minded people and you will lose those ten pounds you’ve been wanting to lose for the last three years in no time at all. Sorry, it won’t happen. To lose those pounds requires you to push yourself, get out of breath and sweat. Laying on the floor stretching your arms and legs in a hot room will not do that for you.

If you want to lose weight, build a successful business or become an Olympic champion you have to do the work. There are no shortcuts. The work involves a lot of hours. It’s the hours you put in and the consistency of the work you do that will get you there. Nothing else will.

However, where criticism of hustle porn is correct is where you are told you have to work eighteen hours a day seven days a week. working eighteen hours a day seven days a week and trying to survive on three or four hours sleep is not sustainable. Sure you have to do the work, but you also need the rest. As with all advice (and motivational content particularly), you do need to take it with a pinch of salt. When you begin to feel tired mentally or physically stop and rest. Go for a walk, take a nap or just turn on the TV and watch something. Being aware of your physical and mental state and acting accordingly is important if you want to maintain your physical and mental health. You do not have to do it all in one day, one week or one month. Success takes time, it takes patience, a lot of action and plenty of time. Mix those four ingredients into the mix and you have a sustainable pathway.

We live in a fast-changing world. A world where it is predicted 80% or more of the jobs available today will disappear within the next 20 years. Schools and universities do not prepare us for the future, they are teaching nineteenth-century principles in a twenty-first-century world. The best way to learn about what is required to survive this future is from the people who are thriving in today’s world — many of who did not have a great formal education — the people who are doing the work that matters to build a career and a life for themselves that so many people admire. Is that wrong?

I believe it is far more dangerous to not do the work. To sit around and live a sedentary lifestyle, that involves going out with friends for a few drinks complaining about your boss or how much work you have to do and sitting at home scrolling through the thousands of lifestyle images on Instagram or Facebook. Dreaming and doing nothing. That is what leads to depression, misery and stress. getting up early and doing the work to build a life and a career of success that gives you purpose and with purpose comes fulfilment.

Is there a happy medium? Of course, there is. Doing the work, being strict about resting, getting enough sleep and taking care of your health should always be at the top of your to-do list. Spending hours on social media, complaining to your friends about how hard your life is and binge-watching episodes of your favourite drama is not going to get you very far in life. You will end up miserable and depressed. Finding your purpose, having a goal, wanting to better yourself, these are the building blocks to a fulfilled, happy life. When you find your purpose and a clear set of goals, that’s where you will find your happiness and if you need a little motivation from a video of “The Rock”, Gary Vaynerchuk or Will Smith then great! If it motivates you, watch it.

As with all things in life, too much of something is not necessarily good for you. If you are spending hours every day watching and reading hustle porn, then it’s going to be counterproductive. You are watching videos instead of doing the work. If you spend too much time thinking about doing something you are not taking any action. Results come from your actions, not your thoughts.

The best advice I could give you is choose your own life’s course, work hard, rest well and don’t listen to the naysayers who tell you-you are wrong to wake up early and work long hours, because that’s where life’s true value is.


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What It Takes To Achieve Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson’s Success.

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As many you already know, one of my interests is to research successful people and reverse-engineer how they became successful. I believe we are all born equal. No one person is born with super-human powers that help them to become more successful than everyone else. What determines success is life experiences and mindset and over the last couple of weeks or so I have been researching Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson discovering how a former Pro-wrestler became Hollywood’s highest-earning actor ever! After reading articles about Johnson’s work ethic and total commitment to his work it became very clear how he did it.

Have an insane work ethic.

As with all forms of success, whether that be in acting or sport, you find the people at the top have an insane focus on becoming the best. They out work, out train and out learn their ‘rivals’. They are incredibly competitive, while being competitive may be unfashionable, their total focus is on being number one.

Dwayne Johnson’s rivals may wake up at 6 am and practice their lines. Dwayne Johnson wakes up at 4:00 am and exercises. Rivals may feel working a twelve hour day is more than enough, Dwayne Johnson does seventeen hours and still feels there’s more to be done.

And that’s the thing, Life is competitive — it always has been — look at any large, successful company structure. There’s normally only one CEO, yet there will be thousands of entry-level positions. It’s relatively easy to enter a company, it’s much harder to become the CEO of the company. To become the CEO you need experience, skills and a unique ability, a differentiator. It’s that unique ability — the differentiator — that gives you the advantage. It could be you are a brilliant negotiator or have the ability to build incredibly talented teams. What that unique ability is, is less important than the fact you have that ability.

Focus on your strengths.

Dwayne Johnson may not be a classically trained actor, but he does have immense screen presence. His physicality jumps out at you and his booming voice is not only endearing it is also incredibly charismatic. You can bet he works on those parts of his skills relentlessly.

It is your strengths that will give you the advantage, not your weaknesses. Don’t ignore your weaknesses but focus more on your strengths because your strengths will be what gives you the advantage.

When I was a competitive 1,500 metres runner I knew my strength was my sprint finish. I knew as long as I stayed on the shoulder of the runner leading the pack when it came to the last 200 metres I was in with a good chance of winning the race. This meant I needed to make sure my speed endurance was strong enough to put me in a position where I could allow my strengths to go to work. So I trained for speed endurance doing sets of 400 and 600 metres with very short rest between runs until I could run no more. I was strengthening my strengths. Sundays, though, were always long ten to twelve mile runs — stamina was still an important part of the overall training programme, even though that wasn’t my strength I still needed the ability to stay on the shoulders of the leading runners if I wanted to win.

Be obsessed with the details.

When you look through Dwayne Johnson’s social media feeds, it is clear he is most comfortable wearing sportswear. Yet, as a leading actor, he is required to attend premieres of his films and do media events. You can’t exactly turn up in your training gear for an event like that. What does Johnson do? He hires one of the top stylists to dress him for those events. Whenever you see Dwayne Johnson at a premiere, he looks fantastic! Dressed entirely appropriate for the occasion. It’s that attention to the details that put Johnson at the top of his field. He understands what it takes to get to the top.

You see the same with Tony Robbins. When Tony Robbins is on a business TV channel, he’s wearing a suit and tie. When he’s performing in front of 15,000 people at an Unleash The Power Within event, it’s dark blue jeans and a dark blue shirt. Your image and the details of the work you create matter.

Whatever it is you want to achieve, striving to be the best at what you do is a sure fire way to achieve it. Never settle for average when with a bit of effort you can become the leader. You can be the one people look up to as the leader and you can be the one to set the example for people to follow. Total commitment, total dedication and total focus. That is how you become a leader, that is how you achieve success. There are no shortcuts, you create your own luck by doing the work, reading the books, lifting the weights and practising your craft day in day out.

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The Secret To Happiness Is In What You Create Not What You Buy.

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For many, having the latest gadget, the nicest car in the street or the best job in your community is everything. Yet these do not lead to a happy, fulfilled life. Sure you get a short-lived buzz, a little smile on your face for a few days. But the lustre and shine soon disappear and then what are you left with?

To really experience the feeling of joy and happiness every day — that long-lasting contentment with your life — you need to pursue more than material things. You need a goal, a purpose. Something to drive and inspire you each day. Something that lights up your fire and brings a smile to your face every morning. It needs to be the reason you wake up every morning with energy, enthusiasm and a desire to make progress. Those material things won’t do that in the long-term. Those will just leave you feeling empty.

To discover your purpose and the things that will bring you long-term joy and happiness, you need to take some time to think about what it is you enjoy doing. Life is about our experiences, our accomplishments, our creations and the people we meet along the way. Unless you take some time to figure out what it is you want to do with your life — this amazing gift you have — you are going to waste it.

Here are a few things that will bring you long-term happiness:

  • writing a book about something you love
  • striving each day to be better than you were yesterday
  • building your own business
  • raising a family
  • working on a side project that will potentially change the world
  • building huge levels of health and fitness
  • making the world a little better than you found it

What you will find is these things are journeys. None of them will bring you instant gratification. They take a long time, a lot of effort and persistence and that is where the joy and happiness come from. The feeling you are making progress on something. Something you created, something you built. Something you can feel proud of. That is where your happiness can be found.

Throughout these journeys, you will experience hardship, knock-backs and frustration. It’s all part of the journey. The harder you find the journey the greater the joy and happiness you will feel in the long-term. It’s the feeling of making progress that brings the joy and happiness.

If you seek happiness in things you buy you will never find it. If you seek happiness in things you create you will have a life of pure joy and happiness. Of course, there will be a side helping of frustration and disappointment, but then that’s all part of the journey. Happiness comes from overcoming setbacks and disappointments and creating something you are proud of.

That’s it. The secret to everlasting happiness. Now go out there and start creating, building, developing and growing and you too will soon discover the simple joys and happiness life brings each day.

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If You Want The Success Of Gary Vaynerchuk, You Have To Work Like Gary Vaynerchuk.

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For many people the dream of building a successful business is real. To be able to create something from your own ideas and to build it into a multi-million dollar enterprise is the stuff dreams are made of. We’ve all heard the success stories of people like Steve Jobs — drop out of university, team up with a tech genius and build a world-changing company. Or Gary Vaynerchuk — turn a liquor store into a huge online success and then build a media company and become an internet sensation. It all seems so easy.

The media paints a misleading picture

The truth is it’s not easy. It’s incredibly hard. The media has a tendency to focus on the glamorous side and play down the daily grind. There are very few glamorous moments. The real truth is eighteen hours a day, seven days a week of mundane grind. It’s about grabbing a few moments with your family when you can and it’s about missing out on a social life. For most twenty-somethings, getting out on Friday and Saturday nights with friends, having a few beers and talking about how they are building a business to change the world is considered essential. We need a break sometimes don’t we? The problem here is, Gary Vaynerchuk never took a break.

While all of Gary Vaynerchuk’s friends were out partying and chasing girls in their twenties, Gary Vaynerchuk was in his father’s liquor store working. Fifteen hours a day, seven days a week. While all of Steve Jobs’ classmates were out tripping in the seventies, Steve Jobs was working on building the Apple I with Steve Wozniak. It was a relentless, seven days a week grind. Back then, nobody was talking about them, no media organisation was chasing them for interviews. They were just like you and me, nobodies in a world full of nobodies except they were doing things differently. They were not socialising, they were not partying. They were working. They were doing the boring, repetitive, mundane work that everyone hates, but has to be done to build the foundations of success.

It is only when people like Steve Jobs, Gary Vaynerchuk and Elon Musk break through and become successful, as defined by the media, does the media begin to pay attention. It is only when they have achieved some form of success do they start writing about these people. They show the corporations they have built, they show off the products created, but they never show the hard work and grind it took to create these successful products and businesses. The failures, the ‘back to the drawing board’ moments and broken friendships and relationships. None of these is ever shown. They are not part of the glamour narrative. The failures though, the back to the drawing board moments and broken relationships are 99% of what it takes to become hugely successful.

Most people wanting success still don’t get it

I occasionally watch a Gary Vaynerchuk keynote. He very generously posts them on his YouTube channel, and he is always telling people to stop focusing on the glamorous side of entrepreneurship. He’s constantly talking about the grind, the hard work and the sacrifices. Even in his short videos on Instagram and Facebook, he talks about patience and the lack of it most people have today. Yet, you can tell from the questions his audience ask that most people still don’t get this. They believe they can become hugely successful without the sacrifice. No, you can’t. That’s not the way the world works.

We were all penniless once

Tony Robbins tells the story of how Sylvester Stallone turned Rocky into a huge success. The repeated rejections, his first wife walking out on him, having to sell his beloved dog and the sleepless nights. The grind of writing and re-writing the script with no money for food. All this happened when nobody knew who Sylvester Stallone was. He was a penniless bum with a dream. Just like most of us were at some point in time. But what made him different was he would not accept defeat. He knew he could make it as an actor and he was never going to settle. He was prepared to go through hell to get there and he did go through hell.

When Rocky became a success, that was when people started to pay attention. The journey to creating Rocky was quickly written out of the narrative and the focus was on the glamour. How many millions Sly was making from the movie and when the next one would be coming out.

The 99% of your time

And the same happens with Gary Vaynerchuk today. We all see him walking around the streets of LA, New York or London talking to the camera. It looks glamorous, it looks like the dream life, but it is only a snapshot of his day. It’s fifteen minutes of a day with 1,440 of them. 1% of his day! What we don’t see is the other 99%. The dealing with clients, the day to day mundane business he still does seven days a week.

The reality is if you want to be hugely successful you are going to have to spend your life focused on the 99% mundane, boring, repetitive work. The glamour will not come for a very long time. The work and sacrifice must come first and it’s decades of work and sacrifice, not a few months. And it will never stop. Your friends will be your business associates. You hobbies will be your work and the beautiful house and expensive car you may one day be able to buy will rarely be used. You will be spending all your time on your work, not driving down PCH in a Ferrari California or sunning yourself around your pool. Your reality will be the office, a regular taxi and a hotel room.

Now, are you prepared to make that sacrifice? At the end of the day, you will always be remembered for what you accomplished and your happiness will flow from what you have achieved and what you are striving to achieve. Happiness does not come from the glamour. It comes from a sense of purpose and accomplishment. 99% of you will not be prepared to make that sacrifice (which is fine) and that is why only a tiny percentage of people will ever become as successful as Gary Vaynerchuk.

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It’s The Daily Grind That Will Take You Towards Your Dream.

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I work with a lot of people who have dreams of starting their own businesses or have aspirations to climb to the top of the corporate ladder and the sad thing is most of them are going to fail to achieve these goals.

As most people recognise, success in anything doesn’t happen overnight. It takes years and years of practice. Even those businesses that develop an app that suddenly takes off in the app stores and turn the company from a small, single operator business into a multi-million dollar business did not happen overnight. The developers spent years and years learning to code and developing their craft in order to create an app that resonates with millions of people.

People don’t go from a high-level manager in a medium-sized company into a sort after consultant overnight. No matter what their reputation in the business world is, going from manager to a successful business consultant takes years of contact development, building a track record in consulting and proven results. It just does not happen overnight.

And that’s the thing about success, while most people see the end result, what they rarely acknowledge is the years of craft development, the commitment of time and the sacrifices that have taken place over years in order to get to a level where people say you are successful.

The daily grind of learning, growing and developing your skills are requirements that you are going to have to commit to if you want to achieve any kind of success. Doing the Golden 10 every evening, for example, so you are focused each day on what is important to you and maintaining that focus every day. It means learning skills that will enhance your abilities, practising existing skills so they remain relevant in today’s world and creating work that you show to the world so they can see for themselves what you are capable of doing.

If you are not prepared to put the daily work in, then you are not prepared to succeed. It is really that simple. Dreaming, thinking and talking about achieving success does not achieve anything. At some point, you are going to have to take action and make those dreams, thoughts and words become reality. Action could be reading the books, taking the courses, and building the content. Each one has its own part to play and of course, you are going to have to allow sufficient time to mature these skills and build your fan base. Without any of these, nothing is going to happen to move you towards building the future you want to build.

The problem we have as human beings is we are all experts at making excuses for not doing. We think we have more time than we do and we are more than happy to allow ourselves to be distracted by other shinier projects, other people and of course the naysayers who will tell you you won’t succeed and you should forget about it and live a ‘normal’ unambitious life.

The reality is it is tough to be successful — it has always been tough. This is why so few people become truly successful. It takes a single-minded purpose, a lot of time and a determination that cannot be broken by the next new shiny project offered to you. You have to do the daily work, day in day out and build whatever it is you want to build without allowing yourself to be distracted by anyone or anything. If you are not prepared to do that, then you are not going to make your ambitions, goals and dreams come true.

So, ask yourself, are you prepared to do the daily grind to make your goals happen?

 

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